Bondage:  Gear, scenario's, and misconceptions.

Bondage Gear

There is all sorts of bondage gear in use.  There is something for every skill level and fantasy.  When choosing gear, it is safe to do it with your partner.  This way you both know what you are getting.  Don't surprise each other until you are comfortable with each others likes and dislikes. Now for the different types of bondage gear to experiment with.

• Restraints - Used to tie up your partner giving you complete control over them. Restraints can be something as simple as a couple of old tie's to complete body suits and hand-cuffs.
• Blindfolds - Not knowing what your partner is about to do to you is an incredible turn-on. Letting them do whatever there hearts desire with out you knowing is very popular in couples. Being restrained and blindfolded gives absolute control over their partner, and many enjoy this best of all.
• Whips - Whips are used to punish their submissive partners when they misbehave or do not do what they are told. They are not designed to hurt, however there are some that strike with enough sting to let your partner know you were there.
• Gag gear- Gag balls, placed on or over the mouth to keep your victims quiet.  More for the experienced practitioner.  Gag gear come in a variety of styles, some with balls, some with straps, and some with dongs and dildos.  All designed to do one thing,  KEEP THEM QUIET!
• Nipple and Clitoris clamps - Designed for just that. These clamps provide a sort of loveable pain and a constant stimulation for the area clamped.  Clamps allow for a heightened sensitivity during your bondage secessions. 
• Bondage wear - Leather is the most popular with the S/M crowd but for you subtle types satin and lace can easily do the trick.  There is all sorts of clothing that can fit into this category.  Just use your imagination, and let nature take its course.  Experiment and be open to all sorts of stimulation and simple pleasures. You never know, you might find something that interest you and your loving partner. 

Bondage Scenario's

• The simplest of all the bondage scenario's is simply tying your partner up and having your way with them.  The best part about this is, it can be relatively free, since a couple of old ties lying around in your closet can do the trick.  Tie your partner to your bed and give them a pleasure filled night just for them.  In this scenario, you can also blindfold them, for that added sensation of not knowing what you are going to do to what area of the body.  They are completely helpless to your every thought and feeling.  For the more advanced and serious bondage practitioners, handcuffs, harnesses, and straps are used to provide a more direct approach to being tied up.  Plus knowing that it is the bondage gear that they can not get out of, makes it that much more exciting. 
  
  

• The next step in bondage games could incorporate a little spanking pleasure. Of course, you don't want to just hall off and hit your partner. Everyone has a different tolerant to pain, so each of you have to learn exactly how hard to spank.  There are some whips available that actually do not hurt.  These styles of whips should be used to get started with.  At least until you are both ready for that certain amount of pain to be associated with not doing what you are told.  This is the next step in bondage.  Punishing when you don't do what is asked of you.  A real turn on, plus it gives a little bit more power to the dominator, to control his subjects even more.  They punish,  I am not in to verbal abusing my partner, but a little controlled spanking when you ask them to do something and they disobey. 

Bondage Misconceptions

• Bondage is for people who enjoy Pain. Well yes there are some forms of bondage that bring a certain amount of pain in to the picture.  Of course this is the hardcore forms of bondage that we are not going to go into.   We are not promoting this style of S/M.  However, bondage does not have to be painful.  The subtle forms of bondage, like being tied up and blindfolded isn't painful at all, as so your restraints are not to tight.  So Bondage just isn't for people who like pain.
  

• Being tied up is unsafe.  It will only be unsafe if you and your partner make it unsafe.  Bondage is supposed to be fun, and knowing that it is just fun and games should help solidify this issue.  Make sure you communicate with your partner and lay down the guidelines and foundations to make your bondage play a fun time.




• Whips and Chains will hurt me.  Well this is true only if you let it hurt you.  As for whips, there are a number of whips on the market that don't hurt when you strike your partner.  If you are looking for a little bit of disciplinary action to take place, know how and where to strike your partner.  Learn the rules of flogging before going all hardcore with spanking.  Remember we don't want to hurt each other, we want to make this as fun as possible.

So you ask, why would any one in their right frame of mind want to be tied up and whipped?  When you are tied up and you give complete control to your partner, he or she can pretty much do what ever their fantasy is on you. They can be subtle with a feather, or completely dominate with restraints and verbal commands.  Of course with all fantasies, safety should be your main concern. Always use safe practice's and some common since when attempting bondage. Some things that come to mind. Never leave your partner unattended while bond. You never know what can happen while they are bound, and knowing that your partner is hopeless makes you the caregiver, and making sure he or she is in a safe environment. Use safe words. These are words that are used to let your dominator know that they have crossed the line. Being bound is very erotic, going to far can be very scary. Your partner knows his or her bodies limitations so be respectful, and to stop what ever you are doing when a safe word as been announced. If using restraints take special care with the tightness of the restraints, poorly bound wrist or ankles can cause very bad blood circulation, if this happens a numb or tingling sensation will begin, and it is the discretion of the person being bound to determine if they need to be loosened. So know your limitations, know your body, know your partners body, be respectful of each others body, and have an adequate amount of trust and communication, and your adventures in bondage can be quite fulfilling.

It would be a good idea to check out our bondage safety guidelines.   These are just some simple rules that should be followed while practicing and experimenting with Bondage. Click here to check it out.

Now there is a lot of scenario's out there that will spike your curiosity, and there are better sites on the net that will help you along further in your bondage quest.  We are not going to go any deeper than these, sense it isn't are thing. We would rather leave the hardcore Bondage Practitioners to do what they do best.  We are a simple people with simple pleasures.  If you are looking to further your bondage scenario's the net has a great source of websites that will do just that.